What Marriage is about

Pastor Joy Amenkhienan

The wedding

Ladies if you haven't learned what is submission, stay away from the wedding. Marriage is not a collaboration, it is the authority, you are under your husband and subject to him.
The higher authority is Jesus and if you are not yet submitted to Christ, so it's a mistake! Start learning how to submit to your mom, dad, Pastor, leaders and boss if you haven't started to do it already.
Gentlemen, this doesn't guding you to become authoritarian. Oh Mr if you still think me, myself and I, then you're not yet reached maturity for the wedding.
Stop proposing and engaging sisters for years to twist and telling them to wait for you? Huh?
Gentlemen, maturity is the responsibility, don't go in to take when you're not ready to be responsible. It's more than a question of age and have a beard or a good house, car or so much money in your bank account.
Hi sir. Your parents feed you always, you still give pocket money, pay your tuition? Huh? You have no interest in courting or to be in a relationship even less to talk about the wedding. An adult still breastfed? This is a mistake!!!
Find someone who loves you is very easy,
But finding someone suitable for you is the mission.
Love is not enough to marry a person. What is your definition of love? He calls you every day? Can you repeat please? Any good friend can do it. She cooks and brings you good meal? Even your mom can do it? He makes you always go out and made purchases for you? It's nice, but even this a girlfriend can do it. She you interview? Huh? Your sister cares about you, your mom does, this girl at your work also cares about you! She's beautiful? Beauty is vain, charm is deceit!
If your reasons for marrying anyone is just because I love him or her then your reasons are unfounded. They are too questionable.
Have you checked, if he or she pays his tithe? How's his partnership in the kingdom? Who listens to what is it? Who is she subjected? Apart from you, what's his relationship with the other, the family, friends or colleagues? You can't be the only person that he or she is passionate (E) by or cares about? If you're the one single person, there's a mistake! We have too much love to distribute to a single person.
Love is more than feelings, it is a force! It's supernatural and everyone is capable of love. As I always say, you don't marry dreamers, marry you, but rather to visionaires!!! People who set realistic and achievable goals and reach by every means.
He would come a time when those feelings will be obsolete, what would you do? You must have reasons or concrete convictions for you married with someone! This is why as a man, you must have visions, already planned!
Know who you are and your purpose given by God. Women know who you are and where you go, in order not to get carried away by the vision of a man.
There must be a meeting point in your visions, you are partners, if you don't go where the other is going. Forget it!
Sir, your wife is a helpmeet, called to help you. Sir! Now, who told you because she prays so well and sings so sweetly she's the one for you! Even the devil comes as an angel of light.
Enjoy your feelings with caution, don't let them control you. There is a call for everyone. Pay attention to the person with whom you marry! Find the person before you say or do anything!
The age is not equated with maturity! (marks a pause and think) will be in your field of mission woman even if it's in a hole, he will find you stop trying to find him.
Woman protect your self-esteem. Set a standard for yourself, support the Bible based on the values virtuous and hold you in. Nevertheless love is important.
Show a lot of love. Love is like a plant, it takes time to develop when you sprinkle. Every relationship without communication dies no matter the type. There must be a constant sharing of thoughts.
Don't become inaccessible or deaf to your partner, understand the same language signs. That's why you need to pay attention to those you love. Yes it is a responsibility, study them and get to know them.
Without Respect, there is no love but remember respect is earned; young man does not seek to fight for how you make the reverence on his part or to make you called Lord. It's childish, when a woman loves you and you show him how it is important to you, she'll be on my knees for you without that you ask him.
If you can't trust your partner, you might as well give up before the wedding. You will not be always there to keep an eye on them, stop the harassment!!!
Love is the best gift that we can give to anyone, show much love
Ephesians 5:33 amplified version; and that the woman sees, she respects and gives curtsy to her husband [that she notices him, look at him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteem him; and she Getting back to him, praises him, love him and admire him excessively].
1: can you see the 1st synonym for reverence is to notice it. Most women don't notice their husbands. They think they are still in the house of their parents where they just walk and see their brothers and sisters sitting in the living room and just greet them and pass! If your husband is alone in the parlor maybe watching tv go straight there, hold his hand, sit very close to him, maybe lean your head on his shoulder. It is enough to do something romantic and watch with seriousness what he's looking.
If you don't want to watch the football and he likes it, what you'd do better it's starting to learn how to watch the football. In addition, when men have their women around them, it makes them feel proud, it makes them feel important and appreciated, it makes them more than man.
Don't act as if your husband is an inanimate object, notice him! Don't wait until have a need before coming to him. Men also like to be treated like babies, hahahaha.
Notice his nice shirt he was wearing, his shoe, tell him how much his tie is beautiful. Say something which shows that you are mature and if you have other ways to point out your man, do it.